About
- Attachment based work
- Client centered methods
- Cognitive behavioral tools
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience working with adults. She lists stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, depression, relationship problems, grief, parenting, anger, career concerns, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue among the issues she addresses.
She describes her role as a kind of coach who helps people discover strengths they already have and develop new skills. Sessions focus on practical steps and discussion to answer questions or resolve dilemmas. She works with adults from diverse backgrounds and pays attention to cultural factors in therapy.
Her approach emphasizes building a trusting working relationship first. From that base she draws on several therapy methods to match what seems most useful for a person. That might mean using cognitive techniques one week and emotion-focused or attachment ideas another week.
Toby often recommends regularly scheduled weekly or bi-weekly sessions to keep progress steady. She asks clients to give as much advance notice as possible for rescheduling so continuity is preserved. She also suggests checking with her before booking alternate times, since recurring appointments may already be spoken for.
Her background includes training and experience with a variety of clinical tools and ways of working. Over 25 years she has worked with adults on trauma, grief, adjustment issues, sleep problems, immigration-related concerns, and other overlapping difficulties. She offers services in English and Spanish and practices from New York as an LCSW.
How sessions work
Therapeutic approaches and how they work online
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early and current close relationships shape feelings and behavior. It looks at patterns of connection and helps people notice and change repetitive ways of relating that cause stress or conflict. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) breaks problems into thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It uses concrete exercises and practice between sessions to reduce anxiety, manage mood, and change unhelpful thinking. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) helps identify core emotions and the patterns they create in relationships. It is often used when pain around loss, attachment, or relationship strain is central.Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work. The therapist will discuss your goals, preferences, and the issues you bring and will suggest approaches that fit. Decisions about which methods to use are made collaboratively and can change over time as needs shift.
Session format options are not specified in the biography, so confirm current online session options before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into everyday life by reducing travel time and letting people schedule meetings during a break or after work. Phone or video sessions can also allow for shorter check-ins when that suits a busy day. Talk with the therapist about what will work practically for timing, length, and the level of contact you want.
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Therapeutic approaches
Experience
25+ years
Listed in
New York
Languages
English, Spanish
Questions
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she address related to family life?
She lists parenting, relationship problems, grief, anger, and coping with life changes among the issues she addresses.
How would she describe her therapy style?
She frames her role as a coach who helps people find strengths and develop new skills, using a relationship-based approach that draws on different methods as needed.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She has 25 years of practice working with adult clients since 2001.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is a New York State licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in New York.
Does she work in languages other than English?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Can I work with her from another country?
She is not accepting international clients at this time.
How are sessions scheduled and what is the cost structure?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What do I do to start working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Details come from information the therapist supplied to BetterHelp. A license can be checked with the state board.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If anyone is in danger, use the crisis numbers.